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The below article from Christine Kane showed up in my inbox when I was in the grips of the 'must do everything right' gremlin in my head. My shoulders dropped about a foot when I read it. You know how you know something but then you forget and then someone says it and you are like, OH YEAH. I remember now.
And things get so much easier.
That was this article for me. So I guess this isn't so much a mission as it is an inspiration. I hope you enjoy!
by the way, don't forget that joy rebel day is this wednesday!! I will be featured on Circla girl's blog talk radio show at 7pm CST that day (wednesday, july 1rst). You can tune in here during the talk and even call in and ask questions (the call in number is on the website). Or you can listen to it later online. I hope you all will be able to tune in!
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"Anything worth doing is worth doing badly." - Julia Cameron
How many activities do you sit and think about doing? How many things would you love to try but stop yourself because you don't know how to begin? Do you avoid adventures because of the pressure to do them well?
Yea?
Well, then, it might be time to explore one of my favorite success principles:
Glorious Imperfection!
Glorious Imperfection means that doing it badly is better than not doing it at all. As my friend and mentor Lisa Sasevich says, "Build the plane as you're flying it!"
Lessons from Imperfect Camping
My husband and I love camping. Even more than we love camping, we love the idea of camping.
Two summers ago, some friends gave us all of their camping equipment. Tents, stoves, tools - the works. We talked and talked about how great it was to get all this free stuff.
Then - we didn't go camping.
We live in one of those outdoors-y, rafting, climbing, "my extreme outdoor sport beat up your extreme outdoor sport" regions. We were intimidated!
So, one weekend, I made reservations at a campground. I called it the "Imperfect Camping Weekend." My husband was on-board instantly.
Imperfect Camping meant that we could go to a campground, even though "real camping" only happens in the wilderness!
Imperfect Camping meant that we could leave our site and go get a lighter if we forgot one.
Imperfect Camping meant that we got along much better because we didn't have to do it all perfectly.
Imperfect Camping meant that we actually went camping, rather than just talking about it.
In other words, it was more important to do it than to do it well.
Lots of things are like this.
The "Usta-Be's"
One of the best times for Glorious Imperfection is when you've got a case of the "Usta-Be's."
"I used to be so much better at this."
"I used to be so much thinner than I am now."
"I used to write every single day, and it got so easy!"
And on and on we go - all the while never starting the very thing that might move us beyond our stuck-ness.
The "usta-be's" are a trap!
Sometimes I travel so much that I get off schedule with my work-outs. So, I created Imperfect Work-Outs. This means that, upon my return, I only do 15 minutes on the elliptical. It means that I only do one set of reps with my weights. It means that the voices shout, "You usta-be so much better at this! You used to go 45 whole minutes on that elliptical!"
I continue my Imperfect Workouts while these voices shout - but at least I'm taking action.
Why Does it Work?
Because Glorious Imperfection is a way of setting intention. It lets your ego know that you would rather do the activity than wait until you can do it flawlessly.
When you begin a project and you lower the bar - or better yet, remove it altogether - then you're free to create without any grade. Ironically, this allows for such freedom and joy that you often end up doing a great job. (Or at least having a great time.)
When you demand perfection from the start, then your attention isn't on the activity itself. Your attention is drained in the perpetual "how'm I doing?" analysis.
For instance, in the camping example, if I had pushed us to "GO CAMPING," then my standards for what camping is "supposed to look like" might have taken over.
Rather than enjoying camping - I might have been thinking, "We're not doing so good. Look at those people at the campsite next to us! They're so prepared! And I forgot to pack the lighter!"
I'd probably end up nit-picking my husband, which would make us both stressed. Then we'd be even more resistant to going camping again - which is something we both love to do, even though we're not great at it!
An Imperfect List of Things You Can Do Imperfectly
- Imperfect Vacations
- Imperfect Writing
- Imperfect Blogging
- Imperfect Marketing
- Imperfect Dinner Parties
- Imperfect Meditation
- Imperfect Yoga
- Imperfect Hiking
- Imperfect Scrapbooking
- Imperfect Cooking
- Imperfect Bowling
(There are, of course, some things that might not be good for allowing imperfection. Brain surgery, piloting a commercial jet, and skydiving come to mind!)
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Performer, songwriter, and creativity consultant Christine Kane publishes her 'LiveCreative' weekly ezine with more than 4,000 subscribers. If you want to be the artist of your life and create authentic and lasting success, you can sign up for a FRE*E subscription to LiveCreative at www.christinekane.com.







20 comments:
Ahh, what great timing on this (and why didn't I read the copy I got in my inbox???). (Christine rock!s) (...and...you do too, Brandi!) (it's like double prizes here today!!!)
So - I've got these writing ideas bouncing around in my head...and I'm having a hard time putting them to paper. Because...I want them to be perfect! And this reminder is so timely for me, because of exactly that - I don't have to be perfect (or my definition of perfect...). So, I'm gonna do it - whatever it brings...and get more written down. I want to, and I'm energized of imperfect being way better that no action at all.
I'm so on board with this one!!!
Luckily for me I do just about everything delightfully imperfectly. Rock on Joy Rebel!
Big thumbs up for imperfection! I like just going with the flow of things anyway, riding the waves of life as it comes. That allows lots of time to stop and smell the roses. And sing little songs to the trees.
Wow! I needed to read this. Thank you for sharing it, this is so helpful.
Thanks I needed to hear this this am as i am being insane wanting a perfecly spotless house for company that is coming...so I am not going to worry and I am allowing for imperfect. Thanks so much, cinner
This is great. I'm taking imperfect action on Twitter and Facebook. I think I'm the last one to get it together on both places. I'll have a imperfect social media week. How's that.
Lance,
Set your timer and write whatever comes during that time. Then at least your writing. Now get going@
I absolutely love this post. You shared it at the exact right moment - for so many reasons. As I'm planning a wedding and getting closer to the big day, celebrating the imperfection of the day will be the way to go. It's easy to focus on what what isn't the way I envisioned it or what hasn't gone smoothly. But that's not what life is about. Life is one glorious, beautiful, imperfect mess. When we accept that, we stop resisting it and are better able to sit back and enjoy the ride.
Wonderful post! You've addressed something that I remind myself often: "perfect is the enemy of good." It's better to do something imperfectly than to not do it because you don't think you can do it perfectly. Great post/topic!!
Glorious imperfection.
Thank you for this.
I really needed to read this today.
I shall practise imperfection by writing an imperfect comment that doesn't say much other than thanks for the reminder!
this is totally a mission ... PRACTICE glorious imperfection!
thanks for sharing this fantastic article. :)
Brandi,
I do love when the Universe provides what we most need, especially in nanoseconds! This post was so timely for me and I can't thank you enough for writing about your journey with this concept—and for connecting us with Ms. Kane. Lovely resource!
Today I'm with you and, as a recovering perfectionist, I am embracing my "enoughness." And I am realigning my work in this way too. I love this lesson...I embrace my imperfections...
Good luck on your interview tomorrow with Cirkla Girl! And en-Joy! I hope to tune in.
Marvelous thought. Reveling in imperfection.
When I was pregnant with my first child, I put myself in counselling to deal with my perfectionism on the theory that a perfectionist mother is not a healthy mother. It was an eye-opening process. I'm not more in control when things are perfect, I'm not more lovable when things are just so, I'm not safe when things are perfect. Life is messy and so am I. And out of that comes creativity, happiness, personality...
Thanks so much for sharing this. So glad to have discovered your blog this morning.
Hey Brandi,
I love this. That is our motto around my home, "Just try...we aren't always perfect, but most of the time we are LOL." My 8 year old always gives me a huge smile when I remind him that things are not always perfect.
As always it was a pleasure to read your post.
I cannot tell you how much I LOVE this concept. What a *novel* approach to "just try."
I plan to use this for myself, as well as for my kids. Wow. How cool would it be to have this in a classroom, too?
I'd much rather do it imperfectly than not at all, too. I think the desire for perfection adds undo stress on folks. I've never been a perfecionist and I'm proud to say it!
I adore the "Imperfect List of Things You Can Do Imperfectly" list. I plan on making my own list soon...and I might even use this with my clients!
i would add to christine's list:
imperfect dancing
imperfect housecleaning
imperfect attempts at new things
imperfect friendship
imperfect family relationships
i have missed out on so many fun things in life because of my fear of not doing it "right" or "perfect" or even "well". time to rrebel and just do it...
thank you everyone who commented. I know this rings true for so many of us. I think we all get caught in the perfectionist trap, at least occasionally, even when we know better.
and Shari-imperfect housecleaning! YES!!! that's definitely one I need to remember.
I am a journal shy person, eventhough I have been keeping a diary on and off for the last 15 years. That being said I can not scarpbook nor embelish a page to save my life, but your post has planted the seed that maybe it was ok to do it imperfectly if I was having fun. Thanks!
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