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When Sami announced that the theme for this month's random acts of kick arse was kindness, I was all set to graffiti the town with love notes, write letters of thanks to those I care about, scatter change in doorways for people to find and otherwise spread some light and cheer.
And then life ramped up and I found that who I really needed to give kindness to was myself.
I needed to not have everything done immediately.
I needed to not keep an immaculate house.
I needed to not exercise if I was tired.
I needed to decide that I was fine just the way I am, regardless of external feedback.
I needed to give myself a damn break.
I get this way, you know? All type A like. And even though I started a joy rebellion that was all about walking away from the 'shoulds' and claiming your own unique brand of joy, I still get caught up in the WORK. And then I feel guilty because I'm supposed to be all joy rebel-y and instead am checking things off the to do list for the sake of checking something off the to do list.
I needed to realize that I'm human.
Within that realization, I found myself focusing on certain things and that inspired next month's theme for RAOK.
You'll have to come back here on Nov 5 to find out what it is. :-)
9 comments:
Being kind to yourself is often harder than being kind to others. Bravo that you woke up in the midst of the type-A moment and decided to give yourself a break! That's a kind of rebelling :)
I decided that I'd let the housecleaning slide last week -- and then my parents decided on a spur-of-the-moment autumn road trip to visit on Saturday morning when my neck and shoulder were most inconveniently spasming, basically frozen in place. Argh!
F. said I was like a drill sergeant, shouting instructions -- only a really emotional drill sergeant, who kept moaning "oh God, oh God." Fortunately, I woke up in the middle of it and just remembered that stuff is stupid and inconsequential -- and everyone ended up having a marvelous time anyway!
How Joy Rebel-y this is Brandi!! Being kind to yourself...we forget so often to do that! The things you put in your list of ways to be kind to yourself...that is very rebel-iscious in itself.
If we are not kind to ourselves...we are missing one of the greatest joys in this life ♥
I look forward to seeing what the theme for next month will be. Being kind to yourself can often be HARD. Last night proved that to me Big Time.
I need to remember to be my own best friend too.
I know you'll get through these challenges gracefully.
x
Yup Brandi, joy rebels are human and I need to be kind to myself as well. Thanks for the reminder.
Great post, Brandi, and funny too, because yesterday for no special reason I (semi-jokingly) wrote in my Facebook status that I declared the day "be nice to yourself day". I was surprised by the delightful responses I received!
I hope everyone who reads your blog does something extra special nice for themselves in response!
thanks for reminding me to slooooow down !
we r all more ok than we give ourselves credit for...mostly we r fabulous! we just forget, sometimes. I love your tiny acorn photo. perhaps slipping a little goodie like this in your pocket could be a reminder of just how fabulous you r when you forget?
have a lovely November 1st
Good for you, Brandi. It always seems so much more noble to always give ourselves to other people instead of ourselves. Which is great in theory. The problem occurs when what we have to give them is stinky five-day-old coffee grounds. Sometimes we need to fill ourselves up with some good stuff so that we actually have something worthwhile to give. Thanks for being a good example of that!
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